My Story Begins About a Bully at Work
A few years ago I left a large metropolitan area and moved to a very small, rural, and remote area. This was actually where I had been born and grew up so all my family lived in this area. I had worked in the large city for many, many years and was a competent, assured and happy person that knew what she was doing in her career. I made the move because I wanted to be near my family after years of being gone. Also, I had a strong sense of needing to be with my mother. This sense turned out to be life changing as only three years after I returned to my roots, she passed away.
The Job Search
Living in a rural area has its qualities and has its hardships. What I quickly learned was that jobs were very scarce, even more so in my background, and when you got a job you stayed there because it was unlikely you could find another one.
A job in my profession did show up in the newspaper one day so I applied. I knew my skills were top-notch and I had many years of experience to back me up.
I had heard stories about the man I was potentially going to work for, but I thought to myself that with my many years in an office environment, I pretty much had seen or heard everything. There was no question in my mind that I could handle the position. The call came for an interview shortly thereafter, an appointment was made, and I went to the interview. When I went to the interview it was after hours so I wasn’t able to see or interact with my future co-workers, which I thought a little odd, but didn’t think too much about it. I was also not impressed with the “boss” but again, I just figured he was trying to be arrogant because I actually had as much, if not more, experience than he did. Anyway, a few days later I was offered the job, which I accepted.
First Day at Work
When my first day for work rolled around, I showed up professional and ready to work. I was shown my office and sat down to the job. There was no need to give me much training as I was familiar with the computer programs they used so it wasn’t long before I had a stack of work. That’s okay, I like being busy.
After a few hours I needed to get up and move around so I went to one of my co-worker’s office to have a brief, friendly “get to know each other” conversation. She had a look of terror on her face when I popped in to say hello. Why? She was scared to death that the boss was going to see us talking! Seriously? We can’t have a 2-minute conversation? I was told emphatically, “no – he will yell at us for not working.” Okay. The next day I tried again with another co-worker. Same response. So this is weird, no conversation allowed.
A Bully at Work
It wasn’t long before I knew what they were talking about. He was yelling at his staff, at his clients, to everyone on the phone. It was awful, frightening, and intimidating. At that time I didn’t know what his behavior was based on or what it was called. I know now that he is a bully at work. Plain and simple.
The Story Continues
If you read my About Me post, you know that I am going to chronicle my life with a workplace bully. It’s a long story and I hope you bear with me as I try to make sense of what my office life has been. I also want to hear from everyone that has had a struggle with a bully at work, past or present, so please share!
What Did I Do?
As I said earlier, it is VERY difficult to find a decent job in this area and I am not going to move. It is my home and my loved ones are here to support and help me. I also need a paycheck so for now, quitting isn’t an option — FOR NOW. I did make some big decisions going forward though and one of them was looking at how I could make money and work from home. Online marketing seemed to fit my needs. There is something I found that I would like you to think about if you are dealing with a workplace bully. There are options!
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I am dealing with a workplace bully. If you are reading this post, that probably means you are too. My posts moving forward will share some examples, ideas, coping skills, what to do when confronted with a bully, and other ways to handle a workplace bully.
I want very much to connect with you and hear your story and share your frustration. I hope together we can heal and find an exciting new future together! Please leave your comments below!
The Bully Basher