Bosses Who Bully Employees
There have been many, many days while at work I have wondered why the boss is bullying his employees. What exactly causes this behavior from someone who is supposed to be in charge and a leader? Why does he constantly lose control, or is he? Does he have some inner demon that he can’t control? Is he facing some huge personal strife that has caused him tremendous mental anguish? Is he suffering from some kind of mental disease or disability?
Perhaps all of the above is true. However, whatever issues the boss is dealing with should not be taken out on his employees. NEVER.
Bosses who bully employees are not the same as a “tough” boss.
Many people who are being bullied try to rationalize it by saying the boss is tough. While a tough boss might have very high goals on what they want accomplished, a bully sets goals so out of reach they cannot be attained. Being tough might mean they expect high standards from all their employees but a bully will single someone out for abuse.
A tough boss wants their employees to work hard and put out their best effort in getting the work done. A bully will call you demeaning names or try to humiliate you in front of others. Most likely you will feel like a servant and will get no respect from them.
Research has shown that bullies seem to target their best employees.
This is apparently because they feel threatened and they are scared that the employee is actually doing a better job than they are. But there are also bully bosses who target the employee who is meek and mild-mannered. The boss finds them weak and easily intimidated so they make an easy target.
My own experience has shown me that the workplace bully I am dealing with targets the most experienced and capable as well as targeting the mildest employees. I feel certain that he targets me because I actually have as much, if not more, experience than he has. When I started working for him, I expected him to ask me about that experience because it certainly would have benefited the office. Now several years later I can say that he has never once asked me if there were other ways, perhaps more efficient ways, to handle situations. He has never once asked me what I have done in other offices or what I could contribute to this one. He has never once asked me for advice or even an opinion.
The saddest part of my own experience has been watching the bully target the easy-going, friendly, and sweet employees. Believe me, I have watched many co-workers sitting at their desks crying because of his abusive treatment. I have watched co-workers cringe at his outbursts. I have watched co-workers resign because they just couldn’t take it anymore.
My own personal opinion about bosses who bully employees is that it has to stop.
There are NO excuses for the behavior. If they are having personal problems, then take some time off to deal with them. If they are having some kind of emotional breakdown, then take some time off to deal with it. If they are having a crisis of some kind, then get help. But don’t EVER bully an employee.
Where Do I Go From Here?
I am still at the job, although I hope not for long! Every day is a struggle, but I’m not going to let him win. I have a plan! That plan is to start my own business from the comfort of my home.
Since I love working on computers, I decided to pursue online marketing. That way I could build up a business while continuing to work full-time. Once my own business begins to prosper, I’ll be saying, “take this job and shove it!”
The way I am learning online marketing is through a fantastic platform called Wealthy Affiliate.
It is a training and resource platform that teaches you not only how to start a website, but how to do it right. There are tons of training available and I am still learning. Since everything is online, I can work at my own pace.
Here is an article I wrote about my experience with Wealthy Affiliate. If you are trying to deal with a boss who is a bully, you should consider Wealthy Affiliate. They offer a free starter membership so it can’t hurt to check it out! I can honestly say that it has been a lifesaver for me and I can recommend it without hesitation.
Anyone who is dealing with a workplace bully can reach out to me. You can contact me by leaving a comment below. I know how awful it is and I do know what you are going through. If I can help in any way, I will certainly try. You have a safe place here!
Thanks for letting me share my story —
The Bully Basher