Harassment In The Office
For those of you who have been following my blog you know that I am in a job where my boss is a bully. It has been an extremely difficult and emotional journey. I truly believe that being bullied at work is a form of harassment in the office, especially when the bully is the owner/employer/guy who signs the pay check.
Wikipedia defines harassment as:
“Harassment covers a wide range of behaviors of an offensive nature. It is commonly understood as behavior that demeans, humiliates or embarrasses a person, and it is characteristically identified by its unlikelihood in terms of social and moral reasonableness. In the legal sense, these are behaviors that appear to be disturbing, upsetting or threatening. They evolve from discriminatory grounds, and have an effect of nullifying or impairing a person from benefiting their rights. When these behaviors become repetitive they are defined as bullying. Sexual harassment refers to persistent and unwanted sexual advances even after gently refusing, typically in the workplace, where the consequences are potentially very disadvantageous to the victim if there is a power imbalance between the perpetrator.”
Here is an experience I had a few days ago (last Friday).
I was at my desk reviewing and organizing medical records. The boss (bully) walks into my office and says in a very loud and aggressive voice, “I want you to put on your calendar for Monday to check on those bills you requested.” I said I would. He said even louder than before, “I want you to do it now.” I said, “I’m working on these medical records but as soon as I get done I will put that on my calendar.” He started yelling at this point and said, “No, I want you to do it NOW.” I said, “I will do it in a few minutes, I will not forget to do it, but I would like to finish what I am working on at the moment.” Then he went into total tirade mode. He started screaming that I worked for him and I was to do whatever he told me to do and do it right then no questions asked and that if I didn’t do it we were just going to have to have “a talk” meaning of course that he was going to threaten to fire me. He then stood over my desk pointing his finger at me and with a hateful and disgusting face. I stopped what I was doing and put the note on my calendar. He stormed out of my office muttering. I can assure you that what I was working on before the interruption and explosion was much more important than making a note on my calendar! By the way, the bills that he was asking about came in a few minutes later by fax.
I can honestly say that during the years I have had to endure this bully, I could not begin to count how many times I have been bullied, harassed, threatened, intimidated, screamed at, wrongly accused, tormented, lied to and treated as though I am a robot. He seems to take immense pleasure bullying those who are somewhat timid, perhaps shy, and older people. I must also point out that his office victims are ALWAYS female. Yes, I am a victim, but trust me, I will find a way out of this and be free!
Maybe this doesn’t seem like a big deal to you and if it was the only time or the only instance where I have been treated in this manner, then maybe it wouldn’t be. BUT. . .this has been going on for a long time and especially since I have gotten older. I am not the only one he has treated in a disrespectful and abusive manner but those co-workers have all left because they couldn’t take his harassment. I have stayed only because I need the pay check and jobs in my rural Midwest USA area are slim if any. Also, I don’t have a second income (husband/partner) to help with the financial burdens of everyday life.
I have been diagnosed with PTSD as a result of the hostile work environment I am in.
My doctor tried me on several different prescriptions but my sensitive stomach couldn’t take them. I turned to CBD Oil after talking with a friend and doing research. The CBD Oil has made a tremendous difference in my physical health. Although I realize that until I quit this awful job, I will have to endure some physical problems, I am at least able to work without pain and extreme anxiety with the help of CBD Oil. I urge you to consider CBD Oil if you are having anxiety attacks. Always consult with your physician first. AND do the research!
A Movement Against Workplace Bullying
One would think in this day and age and with the “Me Too” movement getting stronger every day, that there would be a movement against workplace bullying. Maybe it’s time to start that movement. A bully does not belong in the workplace under any circumstances and the bullies should be confronted, outed, and if necessary, taken to court. Bullying in my opinion is harassment and it must be stopped.
Working From Home
I know that I have mentioned in prior blogs that I decided to look into online marketing as a means to be able to work from home and get out of this position. I did extensive research on various “work from home” opportunities. Sadly, there are a lot of scams out there so it took a while to sort through everything. I found a place called Wealthy Affiliate. They offer training, tons of information and a community of like-minded people who want to learn and succeed in online marketing. Although I was quite skeptical of this at first, I went ahead and tried it out. I have not regretted it for one minute. I have websites now and even more important, I have a belief that with Wealthy Affiliate guiding me through it, I will find my freedom by doing online marketing from the comfort of my home. If you are interested in finding out more about Wealthy Affiliate, please check it out here.
Let Me Hear From You
I know there are victims of bullies out there and I have heard from a lot of you. Please feel that you can reach out to me. I will always listen and if I can help, I certainly will. I don’t want anyone to suffer like I have and I want to see the scourge of the workplace bully be a past experience for everyone. Leave your comments below, I really appreciate it!
Take care and hope for the future!