My Boss Is Verbally Abusive
Since beginning my journey of working for a bully, one thing that stands out the most in the abusive category is how my boss is verbally abusive. In my long career, I have never encountered a boss who spends so much time and effort yelling and demeaning others.
Sadly, it isn’t just me that he is verbally abusive to. His clients suffer the abuse as well. It is not uncommon for me to be sitting in my office and the boss is in the conference room with the door closed. Keep in mind this conference room is not near my office, it is at least 100 feet from where I am. But I can hear every word he is saying because he is yelling. He is either on the phone yelling or he has a client in the room with him and he is yelling. I never hear anyone else, not a word from the client. They sit there stunned but they take it. Don’t ask me why. They are actually paying him to be abusive to them.
Simple, Pure Intimidation
I believe it is simple, pure intimidation on his part and that is why the clients will not stand up for themselves. I can’t even count how many times a client has approached me in confidence and told me they are unable to have a professional conversation with him because he just won’t allow them to speak.
He will be rude and offensive and often uses foul and extremely unprofessional curse words. It doesn’t seem to matter to him who he is addressing or how they might feel about being spoken to in this manner.
The bully boss also lies. I’m talking flat out lies. If it suits him, he will do it and without hesitation. He has no qualms about it and it obviously does not bother him.
The “Stupid” Word
I have actually heard him call people stupid. He has a tendency to repeat, over and over and over, the same thing. If someone didn’t understand it the first time, chances are they aren’t going to understand it the fifth time. Rather than trying to express whatever it is he is trying to express differently, he just says the same thing over and over. If the person he is talking to doesn’t get it, somehow it’s their fault, not his. And he will start putting them down and either directly or indirectly makes them feel they are stupid. Sometimes he just says it to them.
Imagine hiring a “professional” to help you in an emotional situation and you hire someone who yells at you and calls you stupid. What is wrong with this picture?
There have been a couple of male clients that I thought were actually going to hit him. I’ve seen them turn red and get very agitated. Rather than backing off though, the bully boss just yells even louder. Maybe one of these days someone will punch him in the face, but so far, none have.
The female clients really break my heart. They try to do what they think he wants but of course that is never right. They get frustrated and then emotional. Most end up crying. He will hand them a tissue box but glares at them because they are “emotional” women. No comfort or support is ever given.
Yelling At Staff
As for yelling at his staff members, this makes his day. There is almost a gleam in his eye when he is berating someone. His ego mixed with cruelty makes a bad boss. I used to try to defend myself but I finally figured out that this seems to fuel the meanness. Now I try very, very hard to ignore the tantrums. This isn’t easy for me because I am a strong, independent woman. All I can say is, at least I have never cried in front of him. I am proud of that fact. Yes, I go home and cry, sometimes sit in my car at noon and cry. But… I don’t cry in front of him!
The Light At The End Of The Tunnel
The light at the end of the tunnel for me has been that I decided to look for a job that I could do from home. I am too old to get another job but I’m a long way from not being able to work. I just needed to find something that I could do that would bring me income for my retirement years. As I am sure many of you know, finding legitimate “work from home” opportunities on the internet is extremely difficult. I was taken by a few scams. I hate to admit it but I was. But I learned what to look for and one day I came across Wealthy Affiliate. It sounded like something that would be perfect for me. I could start it now and learn how to create websites. My plan has been to get one or two websites up and running and when they started to make money, I could get away from the verbally abusive boss.
What a great platform I found! They not only teach you “how” to build a website, but they go above and beyond by offering so much training it is incredible. There are a LOT of members at Wealthy Affiliate and believe me, this community is wonderful. They are there to support and help ME! No question is too ridiculous and answers are immediate. The website that you are looking at right now was created with the training and support of Wealthy Affiliate and I am proud of my achievement!
What Can CBD Oil Do For You
One other thing I would like to mention. Dealing with a workplace bully and a boss that is verbally abusive has caused my physical health to deteriorate. In fact, it got so bad that I was finally diagnosed with ulcers and PTSD. The prescriptions my physician wrote had side effects that made it very hard for me to take them. One day a friend of mine asked me if I had ever heard of CBD Oil. I did some research, decided to order the product to try, and I am amazed at the results. No more stomach pains and my stress and depression seem to be completely under control. I can now focus on my end goal – get away from the workplace bully! If you are having problems with your health and the medications you are taking, please check out CBD Oil here. I hope it helps you as much as it has helped me.
Finally, in closing, I want to ask that anyone who is reading this blog that is facing the ordeal of working for a bully to please reach out by leaving a comment below. I truly want to help you if I can and support you through your difficult experience. Together I hope we can change how people think and deal with verbally abusive bosses.
The Bully Basher