Signs of Workplace Bullying
My workplace bullying experience started many years ago and there wasn’t a term for it although it certainly existed throughout the country. Personally, I have had a few awful bosses and some distasteful situations occur in my working life. However, I had never quite experienced what I have experienced in my current job. To finally have a name for it is a big help. Knowing what those signs are is even better.
There is a wonderful organization called the Workplace Bullying Institute (WBI) that has tons of information and advice on workplace bullying. I would like to share some of their signs of workplace bullying.
Signs You May be Experiencing Outside of Work
First, they point out signs you may be experiencing outside of work. I know when I first read these, I realized I was being bullied. The signs are:
- “You feel like throwing up the night before the start of your work week”
- For me, this was an absolute “yes” so check.
- “Your frustrated family demands that you to stop obsessing about work at home”
- “Your doctor asks what could be causing your skyrocketing blood pressure and recent health problems, and tells you to change jobs”
- “You feel too ashamed of being controlled by another person at work to tell your spouse or partner”
- This one didn’t apply to me as I told everyone!
- “All your paid time off is used for “mental health breaks” from the misery”
- “Days off are spent exhausted and lifeless, your desire to do anything is gone”
- “Your favorite activities and fun with family are no longer appealing or enjoyable”
- “You begin to believe that you provoked the workplace cruelty”
Signs At Work
Then WBI goes on to explain what might be happening at work which are signs of workplace bullying:
- “You attempt the obviously impossible task of doing a new job without training or time to learn new skills, but that work is never good enough for the boss”
- This one for me is partially true. When I started working for the bully, I was experienced so the training and learning new skills wasn’t really a problem. However, the work being never good enough for the boss was definitely true, so check.
- “Surprise meetings are called by your boss with no results other than further humiliation”
- “Everything your tormentor does to you is arbitrary and capricious, working a personal agenda that undermines the employer’s legitimate business interests”
- “Others at work have been told to stop working, talking, or socializing with you”
- Luckily, I didn’t have this problem as everyone is a target.
- “You are constantly feeling agitated and anxious, experiencing a sense of doom, waiting for bad things to happen”
- Check, check, and check.
- “No matter what you do, you are never left alone to do your job without interference”
- “People feel justified screaming or yelling at you in front of others, but you are punished if you scream back”
- Well, if the people they are referring to is the boss, then check
- “HR tells you that your harassment isn’t illegal, that you have to “work it out between yourselves”
- This office doesn’t have an HR. The boss is it.
- “You finally, firmly confront your tormentor to stop the abusive conduct and you are accused of harassment”
- Haven’t had this one happen yet, but it wouldn’t surprise me if that would happen
- “You are shocked when accused of incompetence, despite a history of objective excellence, typically by someone who cannot do your job”
- “Everyone — co-workers, senior bosses, HR — agrees (in person and orally) that your tormentor is a jerk, but there is nothing they will do about it (and later, when you ask for their support, they deny having agreed with you)”
- Thank goodness I have support from fellow co-workers.
- “Your request to transfer to an open position under another boss is mysteriously denied”
- Darn, if only there was another position!
So, if you are experiencing any of the above and questioned whether the person you are dealing with is a bully, I hope this information shows you that you are, in fact, dealing with a bully in the workplace.
Another Option to Consider
As I started struggling more and more with what to do to get away from the workplace bully, I started doing research on ways to make money online from home. I’m older (close to retirement age) and as I’ve told you in prior posts, not only are jobs extremely scarce in my professional background, but I knew my age would be a big factor in getting hired somewhere. Who wants to hire someone about ready to retire? Probably wouldn’t happen. Hence, the reason for checking out online opportunities.
I came across a company called Wealthy Affiliate, researched it, decided it was a legitimate company, and joined. Not once have I regretted my decision. I am learning how to make websites (like this one) and they provide constant support, supervision and a fantastic community of like-minded people from all over the world that want the same thing – to learn how to make money online! On top of all that, having something to reach for, something to hope for, and something to believe in, has turned my life around. I am not nearly as depressed at work because I now have a plan!
If you would like to read a blog I published within Wealthy Affiliate about my progress, click here!
If you are trying to deal with a workplace bully, please leave a comment below. I want to hear from you and, if I can, help you get out of your miserable situation. I am finding that telling my story is helping me, maybe it can help you too.
Here’s to the day we can say, “Workplace Bully – Bye Bye!”
–The Bully Basher